Thirsty or Persistence?
Last week Mr. Gaines wrote a beautiful couple of posts (going to get that book by stormie) and was a cameo in a video with J and announced he was getting married (lovely)! This made me think maybe he could help me with my male issue of the week (lol) as well as others. Last summer I talked to a guy for a couple of weeks and it dissolved itself after I felt like God as giving me RED flags about this young man. He took me to a very expensive restaurant on our first date that I didn't chose but continously talked about the amount dinner was after we eat it and he offered to pay! He's very ambitious, which is appealing to any woman but only in moderation, everything we talked about was him getting money, what he would do with it and how self conscious he was about his looks!
I had a enough and I let him know maybe we weren't meant to be...
He just didn't get it and he called me over winter break to discuss why we stopped talking.
I told him the same thing I said in July about him being materialist and self conscious but maybe I was being too nice. It's June now and he's popped up again! Curse facebook chat because that's his tool to get to me without my number. He says he's having on these issues and I helped him by talking to him. I asked him "why do you want to still talk to me?" He says I changed his view of women; I was cool to hang out with like one of the guys but still the girl he liked and I had swag (his words not mine)! He constantly acted like we're talking again and we're not and I've tried explain that it takes baby steps to get even to friend status with me right now. He calls/texts everyday now...what do i need to do to let him know we're probably won't talk again but we could be friends (on a trial basis) if he calms down.
Kid Sis needs help is this being thirsty or just persistence?
posted by Kid Sis at
12:54 AM
2 Comments:
:)Let me start with a GINORMOUS disclaimer: "By no means am I a relationship expert; I just have an opinion based on my own experience." So, based on MY understanding of the situation, you aren't interested in this guy romantically and its clear that you are reluctant to be his friend(see "trial basis"). I believe that in the pit of your stomach/ heart (wherever your discomfort radar resides) you feel that this guy doesn't belong in your life, at least not at this moment. You may not be able to pinpoint why, but you KNOW that something isn't exactly kosher. This part of you seems to be in conflict with the sympathetic part of you that wants to recognize likeable qualities in the gentleman and leave a sliver of opportunity for friendship with him. Based on your description of this brother's pursuit of you, he doesn't seem likely to be content with "friendship" alone. Even if he agrees to just be friends, I wouldn't be surprised if he tried to pursue you romantically via the friendship; it provides him with another avenue into your life. Anyway, the brother seems a little "thirsty" to me, but based on how you feel, it almost seems irrelevant. I think that if you aren't diggin' him, you should tell him more forthrightly than you have thus far. If you don't want to cut him off completely, quote yourself the next time you two speak. Say, "We probably won't talk again but we could be friends (on a trial basis), if you calm down." Just my .02
Thirsty...now let's talk about PureMusic
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