What's Your Dating Record?
I was staring out the window at work earlier...
*I mean, I was WORKING so very hard*
When it occurred to me that I had to get a background check for this job. And every other job that didn't pay me in cash under the table (sorry, Hip Hop Connection) And so I thought:
Wouldn't it be cool if when people dated they gave DATING RECORDS, which showed how successful or terrible they were at dating? I mean, come on, they don't all work (it's better that way sometimes), but wouldn't you like to know if someone you are potentially dating has experience with amicable splits? That's one for the W column.
Even better, how much would it tell you about a person if they had a bunch of messy breakups or have been cheated on a bunch of times, or just had a horrible experience? Those are called L's.
But there's more.
What if besides Wins and Losses someone could tell you how many people they never really broke it off with, or folks where they still aren't sure whether it ended good or bad? Still on the ropes? Still kinda sorta happening? That's a Tie.
Wins. Losses. Ties.
It's good to reflect on our dating record every once in a while. Sometimes it will show us where we go wrong, or trace for us a pattern of behavior. If nothing else it's the BEST conversation starter. Imagine meeting a guy and he says outright, "I'm 10-0-0, Undefeated and Untied baby" (he definitely said "baby" after that, and his chest was mad unbuttoned like he was on CSI). Or what if he said, "I'm 5-5" (this thing could go either way). Things that "Hmmm..."
When you write them down on a sheet of scrap paper (which, by all means you will BURN afterwards) you'll see that you had a few W's in a row. Good. Or maybe a few L's consecutively. Who's fault is that? The TIES may tell you more about yourself than anything. So let's do it.
I'll be the first to go. After 12 years of dating, I am a (insert adjective here) *drumroll*...
4-2-1
Your turn.
posted by CaesarKwest at
9:04 PM
3 Comments:
Wow, I really never thought about this at length. Thanks for provoking the thoughts!
Hmmm...I'd say my score would have to be 1-1-1
I never saw the point in dating a lot of folks. Still don't either. I'd rather just get to the real deal sans the riff-raff (though, I value highly the lessons that do come from those that aren't "the one").
This is vague...or maybe my relationships have been vague. Either way its too hard to figure out....Now if were going on dumped =L Dumper=W and Mutual splits I know that would clear it up for me.
Like there were some that were not amicable at first and became so later and vice versa. I was usually the cheater but I never got caught. I only remember being cheated on once and i dont blame her so...its murky for me
This is great. Nice job with this post. I am going to keep this in mind as I continue to parent and preach. I ended my 13 year stint in the trenches with a 5-3-1, I guess I'll have to live with it. I'm glad most of them can speak well of me. Oh and "dating" is not always the most accurate term when I count the L's and the T's. Just sayin'. So very glad it's over.
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